Lots of people I know tell me all the time not to compare myself to others. It's well-meaning, and I get it. But consider this:
It's so easy for them to say that when they haven't spent their life left behind socially and, in some cases, academically (non-verbal material is what I'm talking about here). The fact is, life doesn't exist in a vacuum. You have to compete in the real world, which expects a neurotypical, non-disabled brain model. If you don't have that model, you have go through years of anguish until you do have it. And if that doesn't work, you have to pretend to have it and hope that nobody discovers the truth. And if you can't do either, you're fucked, socially and financially.
So it's so easy to tell people not to compare themselves to others when they haven't spent their entire lives struggling to just be normal.
Check your privilege.