tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1773356771647520694.post8637149509243714611..comments2024-01-17T13:35:57.300-05:00Comments on Eccentrics United: An Autism Blog: SEX! Now That I Have Your Attention, Read this Blog Post!Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1773356771647520694.post-24076736899584353842014-08-26T23:57:00.777-04:002014-08-26T23:57:00.777-04:00Fair enough. I didn't mean to imply that liter...Fair enough. I didn't mean to imply that literally everybody was the same. Obviously we all have different experiences and there are exceptions to the rule (if there is a rule). My point really was that I find it obnoxious that people assume that because someone hasn't had sex it must mean they are religious, were abused, were repressed, or have some iron will, rather than that they're just not sexually inclined by nature. It's just upsetting that so many people can't wrap their minds around not needing to get laid every two seconds.<br /><br />I am sorry that you were abused and I hope you are able to heal from it. But as you said, that isn't what caused you to be asexual, and that's one of my points. Whoever abused you, I'm sorry that they're such a narrow-minded, insensitive jerk that they felt they had to do that to you as a response to you being who you are.Eccentrics Unitedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01387926241080720465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1773356771647520694.post-12680162914224441932014-08-26T22:47:34.683-04:002014-08-26T22:47:34.683-04:00Hi, I was one of the aces at the meet-up on Sunday...Hi, I was one of the aces at the meet-up on Sunday. I'm...honestly pretty uncomfortable with some of your comments, especially about "all of us" not having been abused. I WAS sexually abused (because of my asexuality) and DID have to explain that to my OB/GYN. There's this tendency in ace communities to talk about how "we haven't been sexually abused!" and it does a real disservice to those of us who have been. I've actually written about this at length; the two most relevant links are: http://queenieofaces.tumblr.com/tagged/challenges+faced+by+ace+survivors and http://resourcesforacesurvivors.tumblr.com/.<br /><br />Actually, I'm generally uncomfortable with any of your sentences where you talk about how "all of us" feel about something. Not all of us are sex-positive (there's been quite a lot of discussion on this topic recently!), not all of us aren't religious, not all of us "get over" our discomfort with sex, etc. It's great that you're spreading awareness of asexuality! But please don't generalize your experience to everyone else.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14140846121334971957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1773356771647520694.post-73890786355862093812014-08-25T20:25:57.004-04:002014-08-25T20:25:57.004-04:00I can't believe that society expects us to NOT...I can't believe that society expects us to NOT be demi-sexual under your definition. It's the sensible thing to do! There would be much fewer children living in poverty after having been conceived during a short-term, infatuation-based relationship.<br />Luckily, some dating sites do actually provide enough information that a couple can decide whether they would be good friends before being lovers.<br />In the Middle Ages, the monasteries and nunneries needed a steady stream of children to join. Now it's no longer a requirement...Marchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13061816230270884790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1773356771647520694.post-7069473231946065422014-08-23T11:39:12.536-04:002014-08-23T11:39:12.536-04:00Although I find sex fascinating on an intellectual...Although I find sex fascinating on an intellectual level, and in terms of reading erotica (frequently male/male), I seem to have a certain degree of disconnection most other people don't. I masturbate relatively infrequently but fantasise frequently before going to sleep. The distance of fiction and television fiction tend to lead to many of my fantasies involving identifying as another person.<br /><br />What spoke to me particularly in your account was the discomfort with the way the culture in general is sexualised. One of the main reasons I got so into reading male/male romance etc is that I've always wanted to avoid being looked at, and the assumption is that The Girl is there to be looked at. Identifying differently gets away from that, into the freedom that anything is possible because it's fiction.<br /><br />When I was younger, I *thought* I was attracted to men visually, but it ended up more like you say, about getting to know them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com